Disappointed Again

“The Cape Disappointment headland was first charted in August 1775 as “San Roque” (or “Cabo de San Rougue”) by Spanish explorer Bruno Heceta, as he explored the Northwest Coast. Heceta recognized this location was probably the mouth of a large river but he was unable to explore since his crewmembers were weak and suffering scurvy.”

“In July 1788, Lieutenant John Meares of the British Royal Navy used Heceta’s navigational charts to explore the West Coast of North America while looking for the “River of the West” and located “San Roque.” Meares decided that no river entrance or channel existed among the shoals at the base of “San Roque.” He changed the name of “San Roque” to “Cape Disappointment”.

As a side note: Other explorers came this way and found the river but only as far as they could determine it from the west. We do know that in 1805, the Lewis and Clark Expedition found there way to Cape Disappointment from the east after an arduous journey from Missouri. President Thomas Jefferson had commissioned the expedition shortly after the Louisiana Purchase in 1803 to explore, to map this newly acquired territory, to find “the most direct and practicable water communication across this continent, for the purposes of commerce.”

There were expectations and hopes on these journeys. And there were disappointments along with victories. 

When you’re living in a broken world, sometimes believing and wanting the right things means you’ll be disappointed. Jeremy Pierre *

“I have said these things to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

Disappointment takes so many forms and, with a world in such a state, disappointments seem prevalent…maybe no more than in the past, but it sure seems that way! They show up as a circumstance that did not turn out the way we had wanted it to or we did not get that job or our health treatment did not work right. Disappointment can come via a person. People do not follow through on a promise or they do not meet the expectations that we place on them. Disappointment can lead to sadness, to pain. Failing to achieve, failing to be…failure usually leads to disappointment too.

To live is to be disappointed. Jeremy Pierre *

For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot. Romans 8:7

I am so disappointed in a person whom I know claims to be a Christian. Also, last week, I found myself in a circumstance that turned into a disappointment. I have other disappointments in my life, but these two are current. I am sad. I just expect better, expect more. And that is the problem: my expectations.

When I expect something, it is my opinion, my mindset of how something should be/will be done. It is based on my perception, but, in most cases, involves others to bring it to pass. Thus, when that someone does not do what I expect, I am disappointed.

There is a person who is extremely successful by the world’s standards, who has chosen to take on a non-paying job for his family yet does not do it well. There have been requests to do it right from various family members but responses filled with anger or a lack of care are given back. Seems like there is nothing anyone can say that does not elicit a mean response or no response at all. The approacher has a way, set in the mind, of the right way to do this job. Each thinks his/her way is better than the way it is being done. So when the response is not along the lines of his/her way, disappointment looms…in the outcome, the circumstance, the person.

The bottom line is: this person needs to do the job committed to and do it as unto the Lord. If it is done in His will, it will be done right for us all.

Then, last week, I overheard a conversation in a store as I browsed. I was the only customer; the store owner and two others were gossiping in earshot of a high school or college age employee and me. I tried not to listen but it was hard not to. I finally had had enough and with a handful of items I had intended to purchase, I put them back and walked toward the door. As I did this, the young employee looked at me and I told her, without emotion, that I did not want to be hearing all of this and walked out. All of them had stopped talking as I neared the door so they heard me. I do not know whether anyone thought anything of my words, but I was truly disappointed in three adults gossiping about two local people whom they actually named regarding inappropriate behavior with youth. What were they teaching the young employee? Plus they did not know whether I knew these people. I had this stuff ringing in my head for a long while this afternoon. Yuck!! No, I do not know the people named, but I did not want to hear what I heard either.

The bottom line is: the Lord is in control and knows these people and this conversation. He is the judge. I am not!

So…rather than be disappointed, I will lift my face, my mind, my heart to the One Who is in control. He never changes but desires that I do.

Trust in Him at all times, you people;
Pour out your heart before Him;
God is a refuge for us. Selah
Psalm 62:8

Disappointment often calls me to grieve the circumstance, grieve the situation, grieve the person. Lamenting, an expression of sorrow or grief, allows me to release the heartache or stress or turbulence I feel. It allows me to call out to God in my sadness, my sorrow. It is letting go.

God tells me again and again:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:23-25

For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world except the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God? 1 John 5:4-5

AMEN. Jesus, You have overcome this world. Trusting in You is the answer to all my concerns.

Expressing our disappointments to God is the opposite of harboring them in our souls. Jeremy Pierre *

For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence,
for my hope is from Him.
Psalm 62:5

What would You have me to do or to be, LORD? I ask because I want to know. I want to be in Your will, to walk quietly, and to be surrounded by Your peace, Abba Father.

For all the promises of God find their Yes in Him. That is why it is through Him that we utter our Amen to God for His glory. 2 Corinthians 1:20

Father God, thank You for hearing my cry. I thank You for going before me now as I release this person, this situation…to You, to Your unselfish ways, in to Your righteousness, into Your grace. Show me the path which leads to hope. Teach me to pray rightly, whether I pray for people or circumstances or both. Open my eyes and my heart that I will accept Your outcome…Thy will be done. Father God, You are worthy and mighty. May I be reminded of those ways each and every day, especially in those moments where I begin to place expectations. It is not about me nor about a person nor a circumstance. It is all about You! I praise Your Name and lift this prayer to You in the Power of Your Son’s Holy Name. Amen.

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*”” from TableTalk article – The Reality of Disappointment by Jeremy Pierre, May, 2018

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